A way to remember, grieve and love

“Through my own abortion experience I have come to realise many women feel the same—that it can be difficult to gain any sense of closure. There is no grave to visit, no tangible way of remembering. Until now.” – Marina Young (Founder, Buttons Project, New Zealand)

Buttons Project Singapore

Buttons Project Singapore aims to collect buttons from anyone affected by abortion. Each button represents a baby we’ve not met. We hope to enable anyone affected by abortion, not only women, but also fathers, grandparents and siblings, to have a tangible way of commemorating these babies. Some buttons come with stories while others don’t. The buttons received will be crafted into paintings and displayed in cafes. Together, we create a memorial to remember, grieve and love.

My Journey

I knew about the Buttons Project when I travelled to New Zealand at the end of 2015. Having been through an abortion, and having struggled with intense pain, guilt and shame, the idea of sending in buttons as a memorial to my child strongly resonated with me. Seeing the thousands of buttons that Marina received over the years made me realise that there are people out there who have been through the same loss and grief that I went through.

I had struggled with the pain and guilt of an abortion alone for some time before realising that I needed to seek help. We should never have to struggle through this alone. It is my hope that in bringing this project to Singapore, people in the same situation will find strength in taking a step towards healing when they realise that they are not alone in this struggle.

Buttons Project New Zealand 

Buttons Project Singapore is affiliated to Buttons Project in New Zealand. Marina, the founder of this project in New Zealand, had carried in her heart the deep and secret loss of abortion for many years; a loss which she could not grieve nor talk about openly. A part of her died after the abortion, and she quickly turned from being outgoing to being withdrawn. Having been through a long journey of healing and restoration, she had often wondered how to help women like herself, by giving them a safe place to grieve and to commemorate the babies lost. Buttons Project was birthed from her desire to help others who had walked the same path. You may like to find out more about Buttons Project New Zealand here.